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June 17, 2017 · Leave a Comment

Begging for Grades: Set Expectations

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If the begging is driving you crazy, teach them how to make appropriate requests. - Teaching ESL - RikeNeville.com

Listening to students begging for grades used to drive me nuts.  If you teach ESL to university-bound adults, you already know that you don’t just teach ESL. You teach culture.  Maybe it’s the importance of being on time. Perhaps it’s explaining that we prefer to blow our noses rather than sharply inhaling, repeatedly, throughout the class.

Why don’t we teach them how to have a conversation about grades?  Aren’t we all more than a little tired of the begging for grades?

I need extra credit.
Give me one more chance again.
I have to make an A.
You have to extend the deadline.

-my student, your student, so many students

Article Contents

  • International students need more than grammar lessons
    • If they’re begging for grades, teach expectations FIRST,
    • Give me something I can use now!
  • Read more about role plays in adult ESL!
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International students need more than grammar lessons

You’ve probably accompanied someone to the bank to help set up an account. You’ve listened to voice messages and then “translated” them for your students. We do it all, help set up medical appointments, contact maintenance for their apartments, walk them through phone service contracts, and explain notes from their kids’ teachers.

Adult ESL teachers demonstrate how to use a washing machine, share our favorite grocery stores, recommend the mechanic we trust, and probably meet up with students at some point after class. 

We don’t expect them to know how to do it all on their own. We help them navigate their lives outside the classroom in a foreign environment. We also get them ready for university life–which is often significantly different from university life in their own countries. We do all this because we know it’s not just about teaching English. So, why do we expect them to know our culture’s expectations around grades?

begging for grades in adult esl

If they’re begging for grades, teach expectations FIRST,

Elementary school teachers make a big deal out of teaching expectations for a good reason–those expectations don’t magically get learned!  

When teaching adults in an IEP (Intensive English Program), you will engage with people of all sorts of educational and cultural backgrounds. They will deal with you in the manner that has worked for them in the past, how their compatriots do things in their own countries.  If it’s not going to work here, you need to let them know AND help them learn what WILL work.

It is better to light a candle than to curse the darkness.

-author disputed

The self-entitled demands that just never ended used to frustrate me.  (self-entitled as viewed through my own cultural bias)  Eventually, I realized I had to teach them how to get what they wanted in a culturally appropriate way.  That is, what would be considered culturally appropriate in the NEW culture that they now live in and must manage to find success in.  I’m a teacher, and not just an ESL teacher.

role plays for how to talk to teachers

Give me something I can use now!

To do this, I created a couple of highly scripted role plays. These guide students into realizing what would help them achieve their goal AND what would be best left unsaid.  

Many of my classes have had a lot of fun with these.  They enjoy hamming it up and making it even more outrageous, but they also use what they learn–not just with me but also with their other teachers.  I know because I’ve heard them and because they’ve reported back to me, triumphantly, of their success.  Grab these role plays now!

Read more about role plays in adult ESL!

  • The Amazing Power of Role Plays in Adult ESL
  • 4 Impressive Reasons Role Plays Bring Real-Life English to the Classroom
  • Everyday Role Plays Perfectly Tailored for Adult ESL: 3 Easy Steps
  • Adult ESL: Honest Tips From the Trenches

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